Boy I would love to have a phone conversation because this would be cleared up within 1/2 a minute. Since this is a forum thread conversation this will take time before we are 100% in understanding.
So if I understand, you want the 'play in new window' link, but you don't want the video to play in the new window with the default flash player, you don't want a download link in this new window, and you don't want the embed code provided from either blip.tv, youtube or viddler in this new window. So what do you want in this 'play in new window'?
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