If you use it in PowerPress, PowerPress automatically sets the preload flag to false for Video JS. Are you using Blubrry Statistics? What is your program called and please reply with a link to the video player so we can take a look.
If you can find a good video player plugin on WordPress.org, reply with it in this thread and we'll take a look. If the plugin is written in a way that PowerPress can interface with it, then we'll add it.
Your best option though is the HTML5 player in PowerPress, which has FlowPlayer classic fallback when HTML5 is not present. You can set your own player image and artwork that appears on all browsers, it's only when the user clicks to play that the platform specific HTML5 player appears, it's the best of both worlds.